Being Happy (part II)

Today I was in a horribly bad mood. And I was stressed too, because I had a lot of things I have to do. Still not done, because I don't know how to do it, but I'm sure I'll eventually get it settled.

But writing about being happy would definitely make me happy. So here is part 2 HAHAHA

1. DON'T deny yourself the right to be happy.

You ever heard of this phrase - all good things come to an end? So does that mean that once you're done being happy you sink into depression? OF COURSE NOT! Why? Because all bad things come to an end as well!

For example, do you refuse to sleep because you eventually have to wake up and face dreaded reality? OF COURSE NOT! You eventually get to sleep again like maybe 12 hours later. 12 hours is a short time. And if you think about how you only have 24 hours a day, would you rather spend 24 hours being angry/unhappy, or 24 hours feeling lighthearted and cheerful?

It's not wrong to be happy. If anyone ever tells you that, get them to read these 2 posts. There is nothing wrong in being happy. Even if the world is going around in chaos (which it actually is) and there's plenty of sadness, if you can't do anything about it, why don't you count your blessings and be happy for yourself? I'm not saying that we ignore the problems, but if you can do something about it, you'd have done it, and become a happier person!

If you're in the emo phase, fine. But GROW OUT OF IT SOON! It's a beautifully dark way to live your life, very beautiful, I wouldn't deny that. But are you so sure the people you love, and the people who love you can appreciate that kind of beauty? Unless you are a group of like-minded people, I'd sincerely suggest you learn to appreciate how to smile. It makes the people in your life feel so much closer to you.

2. DON'T deny others the chance to be happy!

I've always noticed how easily affected I was by others' moods. If I were surrounded by a bunch of unhappy and demoralizing people, I'd be extremely depressed. And during that period of time, I really, really, really hated myself so much I actually did physically hurt myself. I'm not saying that you are wrong to feel unhappy with certain downs in your life. I'm just saying that if something bad cannot be changed, why not turn the situation around? Complaining and getting angry about it will never solve the issue. But if you can find something positive about the issue, you can laugh about it, make fun of it and eventually, you'll feel so much better.

3. You don't have to pretend to dislike something you absolutely adore just because people are against it.

If the rule doesn't sound reasonable to you, break it, manipulate it until it does. (but don't break the law lah, if you're in school, you break school rules, you go for detention. you break the law, you go to prison and get your ass whacked) Maybe you like cockroaches, but everyone hates cockroaches! They find you absolutely disgusting. Why do you like that cockroach? To them (and to me actually), it is sickening. But to you, it could be an ancient piece of art! After all it IS one of the creatures that has survived the stone ages, dark ages, all the way till today! Why? Because it's sturdy AND hardy and very strong. Don't get me wrong, I still cannot stand the sight of them. But so? Should my dislike for cockroaches bother you more than how much you actually enjoy observing them? Is it your life, or my life?

You don't have to go against yourself to fit in. Just stand out if you can't fit in. Anything wrong with that?

Instead of seeing yourself as weird, see yourself as special. You like something NO ONE ELSE does! You see the beauty in something that no one else can! So tell me now, are you special or weird?

4. Daydream.

Life in Singapore is stressful. For students, working professionals, labourers, and even children. Sometimes you feel like, oh, reality really really sucks. I wanna die. I feel desperate, and suicidal.

I have a better solution for you.

DAYDREAM!

When you let your imagination run wild, you get this fantastic world that you have and NO ONE ELSE HAS! It's DIFFERENT from everyone elses'! This is my damn favourite! You don't need the bloody internet to find people for you to tell you that you're fabulous, you're life's not that bad. Your mind, NEVER FORGET YOUR MIND, is MORE POWERFUL THAN ANYTHING LIKE THAT!

What speed does our broadband give us? Above 768 kilobytes per second. I don't exactly know what that means so yes I just fooled you. But, who cares?! Is it faster than our mind? The internet can take us from one fantasy-filed page to another in perhaps, 3 seconds flat. So? Our mind? 0.001 milliseconds? Before you even know it, you'll be enjoying yourself where? In the comfort of your own mind.

You don't even have to share it! When you use the internet, there's always a risk of someone accessing your browser history. There's always a risk of spyware. There's always a risk of some asshole hacking right into your PC.

Your brain? Fast, efficient, effective, and no one can access it. Nobody nobody but chew! No one at all.

Always think that you HAVE a good life and you're living it right now. If you think your life sucks, how did you get the internet access to read this post?

Or maybe your life sucks. You have parents that are always screaming at you, and they eventually get a divorce, and you feel like you're the one who caused your own unhappiness. If you think you caused it, you fix it. And if you can destroy it, you can fix it. And perhaps in the process of fixing it, you'll find out that certain things are beyond your control. But you can control how you feel, and it's better to be happy.

And so if your life sucks, and you're not the one who caused it. Then why should you allow your life to suck because of somebody elses' mistakes?!

Don't I sound like some irritating psychotic freak who can be happy 24/7? I'm definitely not happy all the time, I get upset. But I can pick myself up, and so can you.

Maybe tomorrow you'll see me drowning my sorrows in tears but honestly, I'd rather be laughing.

And here's the grand finale!!!!













SMILEEEEEEEEEE :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

To all those who think it will be useful to you: It is really no use discussing what you've already decided on to "get their opinions". Because human nature would only push you to see what you've already fixed your mind on.

But trust me, people won't like it when you do that. Find some way.

Please read this if you're always depressed

So why the hell am I a happy person? :D

1. First of all, I assume that everyone loves me. At least most of the time, I do. Even if they secretly hate you, still assume that they love you. You'll be as carefree as Inspector Jacques Clouseau in Pink Panther movie. Because when you convince yourself that everyone loves you, you see yourself this way: gee, I'm not that bad after all. Since so many people love me, I should love myself too! And when you do love yourself, you'll show respect towards yourself by showing others respect, and people will end up really liking you, if not loving you.

But if you believe that people already love you, why would you even need to bother about the last line of the previous paragraph?

You'll be worry-free, because you won't have to worry about people judging you or your actions since you think they love you. And normally when you do love somebody, you can ignore the crap they're doing. It makes you a much happier person overall.

2. Don't worry.
Things that cannot be solved, don't worry about them.
Things that can be solved, don't worry about them. Do something.

I'm not saying that it's wrong to be nervous about something you care about, but if you don't want to be bogged down by it for the rest of your life, put a limit on it. When you worry about something that cannot be solved, really doesn't make sense right? Next time when you worry about something, take a second to think whether it's worth worrying about. But of course, it's human nature to worry. However, once you go by this "don't worry about things that cannot be solved" mantra, you'll worry A LOT LESS. You're less unhappy as a result, because when you worry, it's normally about things you cannot control. How about focusing on things that you can control?

3. Exercise
Or in my words, burn flab.
Exercise -> burn flab+release of endorphins -> better sleep
better sleep+burn flab = a lot less flab
a lot less flab = hotter body
hotter body = you loving yourself MORE
And and and and and! You'll be able to wear clothes that you've always found beautiful, but never had the courage to wear. In other words, it's okay to embrace your inner bimbo, but don't be stupid and fall prey to predators.

4. I find people to love, and I'm always finding new ones too.

The more love you shower on people, the more you get back. Even if you don't get anything back, you can, once again, convince yourself you did get something back. (I'm not talking about the kind of love that leads to sex, by the way)

When you have people you love, you have people you genuinely care about and want to see happy. Somehow you'll get excited when you see people you love, even friends, because you're somehow thrilled at the thought of sharing your joys with them. If not you'll just feel happy when you see them happy! Right? Right! I also dunno why.

5. Laugh - a lot.

Would you rather spend a day pulling a long face, or a shorter face with higher cheekbones? (heh?)

Laughter is damn infectious - and even if people do feel annoyed with you initially, remember step one. If not, just ignore them. If they don't want to laugh it's their problem, not yours. You laugh all you want. But don't laugh at a funeral, because you won't infect people with your laughter, they'll just throw you out into the nearest drain.

Why not laugh? Why not laugh with such a fantastically uninhibited attitude that you lose control? Can you possibly feel like crap after laughing that much? Ok yes you can, but it's FUNNY CRAP! Not lousy crap anymore! And then you'll laugh more, and you'll make yourself even happier.

It doesn't mean that if it sounds stupid it cannot be funny because it's an insult to your intelligence. If you can find humour in nearly every situation (excluding gory humour/overly insulting sarcasm/dead puppies/kids dying - all of which I cannot do anything else but oppose) you'll be grinning from ear-to-ear in no time.

6. Don't be shy.
What has being shy got to do with getting in your way of being happy?

If I'm not someone who has been through horribly depressing stages of my life, I wouldn't say anything about shyness. Why? Because when I was so shy, I was afraid to ask for things that I really, really wanted. Then I'd go sulk in a corner, pining desperately for it. And then after that I'd realise that because of how much I'd hesitated through being shy, I'll never get what I'd initially wanted so badly.

And if you're someone who likes attention - I'm talking about positive attention - you should NOT EVER BE SHY! Like me, I don't deny I like attention, especially the positive kind because it makes me feel IMPORTANT, and therefore in some way, LOVED. And so why do I enjoy so much attention? Because I don't want to blend in like I used to, and take only tiny little droplets of love when the others received SHOWERS of them. Not very fair right? So be fair to yourself.

I'm not saying you go scream for attention, but somehow earn it. I wouldn't say that I'm such a moral person, and I've earned attention through respect. But I'd definitely say I'm not getting attention through despicable means.

Previously I said IF YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO LIKES ATTENTION. I change that. You should be someone who likes attention. Everyone should learn to like attention! (positive kind, of course) The next time you become the centre of everyone's attention, stop letting your low self esteem kick in. Instead of thinking that he/she's staring because she's being rude, or just plain trying to annoy you, why not think that he/she's staring because you're special and interesting to look at? Seriously, I don't think I'd look at someone who looks bad. I'd just take a quick glance, and go - OK! I'll move on!

If it's someone who looks good however, I wouldn't mind taking a longer look. I'm not sure if I'm the only one, but to me it's just very natural. I look at nice things and I'll look at them for a long time.

That's all for today because I'm v. tired.

Last one - SLEEP. :)

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